What Happens During Online EMDR Therapy?

What online EMDR therapy is

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It is a structured, eight phase psychotherapy developed for distressing memories and post traumatic stress, and it is recommended for PTSD in guidance published by the World Health Organization, the American Psychological Association, and the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs. Online EMDR is the same protocol delivered through a secure video platform rather than in an office.

The central idea is that some experiences are stored rather than fully processed. When that happens, the memory can stay linked to the emotion, the belief, and the body response that came with it, so a present day situation can trigger a reaction that belongs to the past. EMDR works with that stored material directly instead of asking you to explain it again. Hira provides online EMDR therapy throughout California to adults, including people who have already done years of talk therapy.

EMDR does not erase memories, and it is not a guarantee of healing. It is also not the same thing as rapid eye movement sleep, and describing it as literally rewiring the brain overstates what is known. What the research supports is more modest and more useful: for many people, repeated sets of bilateral stimulation while holding a target in mind reduce how vivid and how emotionally charged that memory feels.

What happens before active trauma processing begins

Nothing is reprocessed in a first session. The first phases of EMDR are history taking and preparation, and they exist for a reason. History taking maps what brought you in, what your symptoms are doing now, your medical and mental health background, your supports, and any dissociation or crisis risk that would change the pace of the work. Preparation builds the skills you will need to come back down: grounding, containment, a calm or safe place resource, and orienting exercises you can use at home.

Readiness comes before processing. If you are in an acute crisis, in an unsafe living situation, in the middle of untreated substance dependence, or without any capacity yet to regulate after activation, the honest answer is that stabilization is the first piece of treatment. That is not a rejection. It is sequencing, and skipping it is what makes trauma work go badly.

Preparation for online work has one extra layer: rehearsing the logistics. You practice the bilateral stimulation method on video before it is ever used on a difficult target, you agree on what happens if the connection drops mid set, and you confirm your address and an emergency contact, which is standard practice for telehealth in California.

How Hira identifies memories and negative core beliefs

Every EMDR target has two halves: an experience and the belief that got fused to it. The belief is usually a short, absolute sentence about yourself. I am not enough. I am too much. I am unsafe. I do not matter. It is not the whole story, but it is the part that keeps reappearing.

Many people arrive with the belief and no clear event attached to it. They know the feeling well and cannot explain where it came from. That is workable. Instead of starting from an incident, Hira starts from the sentence, the emotion, and where you feel it in your body, then works backward toward the memories that installed it. In EMDR training this is done with techniques often called the floatback and the affect bridge: you hold the belief and the sensation, and allow your mind to drift to earlier moments that carry the same charge.

The point of finding earlier material is efficiency, not archaeology. Later memories frequently repeat an argument that an earlier one started. Processing an early touchstone often loosens the cluster of later experiences making the same claim about you.

The role of one question: “When was the first time in your life you remember feeling this way?”

This is the question Hira returns to most often, and it usually arrives right after you describe a present day reaction that seems out of proportion to the situation. It moves attention off the argument you had last week and onto the felt sense underneath it.

Answers are rarely dramatic. People remember standing in a hallway, being the child who never needed anything, a comment from a coach, a parent who was competent and unavailable. Nothing on that list looks like trauma on paper, and all of it can be stored. You are allowed to answer with I do not know, or with an image that seems irrelevant. Both are useful starting information.

What bilateral stimulation may look like online

Bilateral stimulation means alternating left and right attention, and it adapts to video in several standard ways. It may be a visual target moving side to side on your screen. It may be alternating tones through headphones. It may be self administered tapping, where you cross your arms and tap your shoulders or your thighs in an alternating rhythm. It may be Hira moving a hand across the frame of the camera while you follow it with your eyes.

Sets are short, often around twenty to forty seconds, and then you stop. Which method you use is a practical decision made together during preparation, and it can change. If eye movement causes headaches or feels intolerable, tapping or tones are equally legitimate options.

What the client focuses on during processing

Before a set begins, the target is set up: an image that represents the worst part of the memory, the negative belief connected to it, what you would rather believe, the emotion present now, a rating of how disturbing it feels, and where it sits in your body. Then you hold that in mind while the bilateral stimulation runs.

After each set you stop, take a breath, and report whatever showed up. It might be another memory, a physical sensation, a sentence, an image, an urge, or very little. There is no correct content. You do not need to narrate the event in detail, and you do not need to perform distress. The instruction is closer to noticing than to explaining, which is exactly why EMDR often reaches material that talk therapy has circled for years.

Why the therapist may speak less during active reprocessing

During reprocessing, Hira intentionally says less. Interpretation, reassurance, and analysis are helpful in other kinds of therapy and interrupt this one. Once your own associative process is moving, commentary pulls you out of it and back into conversation.

So the between set responses are often brief. Notice that. Go with that. Where do you feel it now. That restraint is a clinical choice, not disengagement. Hira is tracking your face, your breathing, your voice, and your activation level the entire time, and will step in actively if processing stalls, loops, or moves faster than you can tolerate.

Somatic awareness and body sensations

Body sensation is not a side effect in EMDR. It is data. Clients commonly report heat in the face, pressure or tightness in the chest, a knot in the stomach, tingling in the hands, heaviness in the limbs, a shaky feeling, tears arriving without a clear thought, or a sudden yawn or long exhale as something settles.

Attention to sensation is part of why the work reaches material that insight does not. Toward the end of processing a target, a body scan is used deliberately: you hold the memory and the newer, more adaptive belief together and check your body from head to feet for anything still holding tension. Whatever remains becomes the next thing to work with.

Closure and grounding at the end of the session

EMDR sessions are closed down on purpose, with time reserved for it. If a target is fully processed, that is confirmed and consolidated. If it is not, the session is closed incomplete, which is normal and planned for rather than a failure. Containment is used to set the remaining material aside until next time, and grounding brings your attention back to the present room.

You will usually be asked to orient to the space around you, use the calm place resource built in preparation, notice your feet and your breathing, and check whether you feel steady enough to end. Online, closure includes one extra practical step: what you are doing in the next hour. Sessions at home have no drive back to the office, and it helps to plan a short buffer before returning to work, childcare, or a meeting.

What clients may notice between sessions

Processing can continue after the session ends. Common experiences include vivid dreams, new memories surfacing, a temporary uptick in emotion, fatigue, or a sense of distance from something that used to feel immediate. Some weeks feel lighter. Some feel stirred up.

Neither is proof of anything on its own, and both are useful information. Many clinicians ask clients to keep a brief log of what came up so it can be reviewed at the start of the next session. Grounding skills are meant to be used at home, and if a week becomes hard to manage, that is a reason to make contact rather than to wait it out.

EMDR does not always work quickly. A single recent incident may shift within several sessions after preparation. Layered childhood or relational trauma generally takes longer, because each layer is targeted in turn. You should expect an honest estimate after intake and revisions to it as the work continues.

Technology, privacy, and preparing your physical space

Sessions are held on a secure, HIPAA compliant video platform, joined by link from a phone, tablet, or computer. A stable connection matters more than a fast one, and a laptop or tablet is usually easier than a phone because a screen based visual target needs room to move.

A few things make the hour better. Choose a private room with a door if that is available to you, and headphones if it is not, since they protect confidentiality and are required for alternating audio. Sit somewhere you can stay for the full session with your feet reaching the floor, position the camera so your upper body is visible, and keep water and tissues nearby. Silence notifications on every device in reach. If you live with other people, tell them the hour is not interruptible.

California telehealth practice also requires that your physical location be confirmed at each session, along with an emergency contact and local resources, so that support can be reached quickly if it is ever needed. Sessions are not recorded.

Who online EMDR may and may not be appropriate for

Online EMDR tends to fit adults who are physically safe, able to secure a private hour, able to use grounding skills between sessions, and located in California, where Hira is licensed to practice. It is often a strong fit for people who understand their history intellectually and still react as though the past is present, including those working on EMDR for narcissistic abuse and relationship trauma.

It may not be the right starting point during an active crisis or acute suicidality, while living in an ongoing abusive situation, with unmanaged psychosis or untreated substance dependence, with significant unmanaged dissociation that needs a slower and more specialized pace, or when no private space is available at all. Certain neurological and medical conditions also call for modification. EMDR is not appropriate for every client immediately, and that assessment is made together during intake rather than assumed.

Insurance, private pay, and consultation options

EMDR is billed as psychotherapy, so it is generally covered like any other therapy session under behavioral health benefits. This practice is in network with several major California plans, and a superbill is available for out of network reimbursement if your plan is not one of them. Private pay is welcome, and cash rates are shared directly on request.

The first step is a free consultation. It is short, there is no intake paperwork before you have decided, and the purpose is to answer your questions and give you an honest read on whether EMDR is the right tool for what you are carrying.

Clinical sources

Clinically reviewed by Hira Kissana, MA, LMFT

California LMFT #162077

Last reviewed: August 2026

This article is educational and is not a substitute for individual clinical assessment or care. If you are in crisis, call or text 988 or dial 911.

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